My daughter was talking to me this about a costume she was planning on making.
“The Universe is weird…” she started.
“I asked your pendulum about which costume I should make, and it picked this one. Then, when I was shopping for the pieces it felt stressful, so it seemed upstream and against the flow, so I stopped and waited for a solution. Someone just gifted me the tights I needed for it, so it’s led me to all these other choices which are so much easier.”
She then added that all week she’s felt like she was being told to just relax and let things flow in, even though the initial costume would take hours of work.
By following her intuition and listening to flow she can relax because the costume is almost done without effort.
It makes me so happy to hear my children discuss flow and listening to the universe.
I love how they know things don’t need to be hard, but can flow effortlessly when you listen to inner guidance and that still small voice within.
It wasn’t always that way.
Often they have pushed against that flow and fought for what they thought they wanted… only to discover it didn’t really work out as they wanted. (But then haven't we all!)
At a time when you may find yourself surrounded by your loved ones more than you are used to and with life being a little more heightened in energy as 2020 is bringing forth a tsunami of emotions, you may be finding that your feeling triggered by those you care about more than you used to.
Therefore, let's talk about something that affects all of us: RELATIONSHIPS.
(And, yes, parenting is a relationship too.)
If you are feeling frustrated by other people and you find your thoughts swirling around idle chatter about things they do that drive you up a wall,
I wanted to give you a quick exercise to start feeling in flow with others again.
It’s a simple thing really. It all starts with the inner knowing that what you put your attention on GROWS.
This exercise works with everyone; from a newborn to grandparents, to the grouchy neighbour who starts mowing their grass when you just set down for a nap.
So here's the thing. Last week I broke my own rule.
I didn't meditate. (and before you start to think I'm talking about 20 minute downtimes... let me say this is a 2 minute thing for this busy mom.)
I had 3 mornings in a row that I had something to do, and quite honestly after the first 2 times of jumping up and running out the door, I literally had already forgotten my own practice.
I'm not a morning person.
I take my mornings very consciously. Mornings start with eyes open and “How do I want to Feel Today...”
or maybe even more so...
“Good morning God.” (Yeah... I call Source/Spirit/Universe God within my own heart. It became my spirit vocabulary when I was really young... but I use all terms readily.)
After that... Cuddles with my husband.... love expressions. Get up. Take the dog for a walk.
Then I have breakfast with my darlings. Possibly check my phone for emails.
Day plan discussions.
Then, I go upstairs and before work I stop, drop, breathe and do my inner connection practice.
2-5 minutes later, I'm ready to go.
So, actually, it's not really meditation. It's more that sense of drop and remember.
Remember who I am. Remember the Spiritual flow that is flowing. Remember my breath.
So, what happened when I ran without dropping...
Oh it wasn't pretty.
I felt the stress building, but it was that run away train building that leads to heart pumping tension and headaches.
I even noticed I wasn't remembering anything the way I usually do. (Honestly, I climbed into bed and had to wonder if I'd said goodnight to our eldest. I hadn't and she was waiting for me to turn out her light. An honor to be had by a near 17 year old.)
My thoughts were scattered. My focus all over the place. It felt rushed and...
outside of me.
Yeah. Life was being lived outside of me. I felt more reactionary. More easily triggered.
Luckily I noticed before meeting with clients or with my membership program. Then I was able to call myself back to center.
What this really did was validate the importance of that inner connection practice.
People tell me all the time, “I don't have time to meditate” as they imagine deep meditations lasting 20-30 minutes.
Got it. They are nice to take part in, but if I try someone usually walks in half way through.
Busy parents, need quick reset buttons. If you have time to brush your teeth you can reset. (In fact, do it while brushing your teeth. The universe doesn't mind!)
Reset buttons to remember your truest self.
Remember the resources and spiritual flow cascading to support you.
And Connect to the Divine. So life flows better.
It's simply a habit. A new pattern to set. A new practice to establish.
In case you didn't know I'm offering a Free class on one of my favorite Inner Connection Practices on Sunday.
I'll be live at 2pm EST, but if you can't make it then there will a replay sent out to with a PDF and an image for you to put on your phone as a reminder.
If this sounds like something that you could use then please sign up for it here. I'll then send you the information on Friday.
Now, it may be you already have your inner connection set. That yoga serves you, or just that morning coffee pause... maybe you wait until kids are at school... or for that night time sink into your pillow.
Your authentic spiritual connection is what matters here.
What gets you heart centered? What gets you filled up?
I would love to hear your processes and what spiritual connection looks like to you.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.