When my husband took a music class years ago, he was given a simple project.
Write a song; using just 4 notes.
Ok. Not that simple.
But the reason behind the project was simple.
Restrictions are a powerful focuser.
When we have all the options in the universe we can easily get scattered.
As a society we’ve tended to get used to a lot of options. Actually, when you consider manifestation and conscious reality creation… you have unlimited potential and possibility.
Which, when you think about it, can feel pretty scattering.
Welcome to the most restricted time most of us have felt in this lifetime.
At this moment in our lives we, more than ever before, are being asked to focus.
And at the same time, focusing can be a bit of a challenge at the moment.
Ah, the lovely balance of being a human.
With most of your routines and habits being thrown to the wind, it’s no wonder you might be feeling scattered in focus and intention. If neural pathways like balance and to practice the same thing over and over, everything about this situation screams imbalance!
(Even if you are a homeschooler and used to spending lots of time at home, kids are picking up on the energy of the world. They aren’t going to their classes, or even to the grocery store. Things are different, even if they don’t “look” like they are.)
So, that’s why the unfocused scattering.
Are you feeling like the energy of your kids is bubbling up and about to explode?
Do you ever feel like, in their chatter and pent up playfulness, that you yourself is building up in intensity?
Energy is riding high right now and children are picking up on all that’s flowing around them.
Yesterday I went in for the Q&A live session in the group, and we talked a lot about how to help your kids feel more grounded and stable in the energy that’s circulating around them.
You can watch that replay here.
Meanwhile, the key to creating stability and grounded energy for your whole family, is to find that balance within yourself.
There’s so much overthinking right now. The energy is building and minds are chattering.
Self balance is always found when you shift attention to the Inside Out.
What does living inside out mean?
Hmmm… really this has to be felt more than explained.
So, here’s a little exercise which you can practice to stretch this experience. (I shared this for both the Breathing Space members and the Step into Your Light Program a couple of weeks ago, so if this feels repeated I apologize.)
The Octopus is a powerful mindset tool to help you shift from what’s outside of you to your inner perspective.
Here it is:
How are you? Are you finding balance in this strange shift?
It’s ok if you answer no.
It’s also ok if you answer yes.
It’s even ok if you have been sitting watching way too much Disney Plus these days and haven’t gotten out of your pajamas for too long to admit.
(and yes, you can email me your answer if you wish!)
These are not the days for “shoulds”.
These are the days for unfolding. For Listening. For Allowing.
We're at the end of the first week of the Coronavirus lockdown here in the UK, and what I've discovered is this: This is a time of a great suspension: a Pause. A space of being more than doing.
Difficult with kids? Possibly.
Or maybe just DIFFERENT, rather than Difficult.
Because, I want to encourage you to, as much as possible, give yourself permission to float.
Yesterday I went into our Facebook community for my daily live to talk about learning to swim last year.
See, growing up I held the belief that I couldn’t swim.
My mother had talked about herself having lead feet, they’d just sink, and the belief was soon claimed by me.
I would swim only as far as I could as long as I could touch the bottom of the pool or lake.
I had to feel the floor beneath my toes. Otherwise, it was too out of my comfort zone.
Too out of my control.
Well last year, as we were worldschooling in Spain, we rented a house with a community pool.
Each day my family was playing up there, and I decided I would shift my belief.
I would swim.
Sure, I would use some floaties for the first while, but the deep end soon became a friend and I would swim in blissfulness, floating around and enjoying the sense of freedom.
My son learnt how to swim last summer too.
After always holding it with fear he finally exclaimed:
Oh! I thought I had to do the swimming against the water, but actually, I just have to trust the water to hold me up!
I find myself needing to learn how to float differently these days. How about you?
Being is taking over from doing, and yes it’s more than ok to let go of control.
Its ok to not know how to fully show up in a Pandemic.
It’s ok to listen to the call to be quiet. The call to receive. The call to adjust.
To be Held, Supported and Loved.
The water is holding you up.
Spiritual flow, isn’t going to let you sink.
The more you relax and focus on just floating into the life flow, as it cascades over and through you, grounding your feet and surrounding you in wholeness, you’ll be carried through this.
Oh sure. Life may shift, change, transform, but it will flow.
Resistance just leaves us splashing against the current.
Breathe deep. Play with your children. Sit in a chair, stare out the window, watch the birds build their spring homes. Watch the wonders of this planet as it heals during this time.
Focus on Love.
And within that… Be.
But you don't have to do this alone either. The world is uniting in this chaos.
If you need anything you know you can reach out at anytime.
(Also, make sure you register for the CREATING STABILITY IN UNSTABLE TIMES 7 day challenge over Easter. I'm emailing participants a number of downloads and exercises for you, your kids and your whole family.)
Heads up: This weekend may feel a little odd.
Because usually there’s a different pace for the weekend.
Kids are off school after a busy week, many parents are off work, but now, for the moment, that’s everyday.
( I know, you are working through schoolwork with the kids during the week, but finding a different pace and energy of connection with them during the weekend is more important than ever.)
So, I wanted to pop in with a couple of suggestions to shift things up a bit over the next couple of days. So you can create flow and light within the texture of your week:
Yes, sometimes there will be screentime and sometimes there will be dry cereal for dinner moments to give yourself a moment to sit in the bathroom and listen to a 5 minute meditation. That's ok. You are showing your kids that balance comes from within. That you turn to within and your spiritual source when the going gets tough.
In order to serve you to the best that I can, and support you with all my heart, I am going to be off Facebook for Saturday and part of Sunday. If you need anything though, please post in the group and members will support you OR you reach out to me via email and I will contact you ASAP with some steps to move forward.
I am putting more consistent, foundational tools in place next week so you will feel the stability of that.
Just know that the steps are being put in place as we navigate this together.
In the meantime, breathe deep, take a pause from this head traffic and give yourself permission to be within this Weekend.
Leave your worries in a worry jar, whisper them to the Universe and let things unfold on their own until you open that jar up again on Monday.
(You’ll be surprised what the universe can deliver when we aren’t looking.)
Are your kids suddenly home?
Today’s Monday and, since many people are currently under quarantine and house bound with their kids at home due to the Coronavirus pandemic, there’s a lot of posts regarding school schedules, new routines and how to juggle work and education over the coming weeks.
But here's the thing that is drawing my attention...
Please remember your kids are nervous.
They are energetically picking up on the fear, stress and uncertainty and, even the fact that they are home and not in school when they usually are, is creating nervous tension within them.
If you are finding yourself stressed about getting schoolwork done, and feel like you have to put the teacher hat on right now. Please stop. Pause, hug your darlings and tell them it’s all going to be ok.
Put some music on, have a dance party, go for a walk. Talk. Laugh.
When I started homeschooling 12 years ago, I went into School at Home mode.
I had my chalkboard, I had my school supplies. I was ready. I made study plans every night and with held treats if they didn’t get done.
When my daughter had tears pouring on her pages, and scribbled the words "I hate my life" on the sheets in front of her… I decided there had to be another way.
Oh, her older sister LOVED the system. She was ready, pencil in hand. But my younger girl, she wanted emotional balance first.
So, she learnt through experience, through exploration. She created and we looked into the lesson after. She asked questions and together we found answers.
During this time of extraordinary circumstances, your kids are going to need emotional balance first.
While trying to do school at home may feel like balance, you, as the parent, have to provide the space for comfort, ease, safety and even fun, light and laughter during this time. That's true balance for children.
Please focus on this first.
Please release the To-do list and create balance first.
Please let go of the action focus and build connection first.
You know, when our kids are grown up they will look back and remember this time as a moment in history.
Wouldn't it be nice if they looked back with pride, that, in their home, they felt safe and made happy memories with their parents. Wouldn't it be a wonderful lesson for them that, even in the face of fear, worry and stress, their family stayed brave and sang through it all.
Circumstance doesn't create happiness. Focus and intention does.
And sometimes, we just have to be brave and act gallantly.
My kids are asking me to figure out some ways to create this as a special time. To cancel work and sit with treats to binge watch series, so that whenever that series comes up in history they will remember the time we shared.
To bake things that will spark memories of safety, security and home. (Baking is a great math lesson by the way… and science… and home economics… and life lesson.)
This is a time for the smells of home. For your child’s heart to swell because they know they are safe with their parents and family.
Look for the lessons within life, rather than imposing them into life. Connect with your kids, and create emotional balance first, above all else.
I'm putting a number of resources for parents in your position in place at the moment. Make sure you come over to the Spiritually Aware Parenting Facebook Group where I'll be sharing regularly. Also feel free to email me if you need to chat. Love and light.
Also, if you want to have some light, fun and flowing tools to help your children create inner connection, balance and awareness..
I'm offering 50% off my course Spiritual Kids for the duration of this crisis, so you can have some spiritually inspired, crafts, exercises and experience prompts for your time at home. <3
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.