Heads up: This weekend may feel a little odd.
Because usually there’s a different pace for the weekend.
Kids are off school after a busy week, many parents are off work, but now, for the moment, that’s everyday.
( I know, you are working through schoolwork with the kids during the week, but finding a different pace and energy of connection with them during the weekend is more important than ever.)
So, I wanted to pop in with a couple of suggestions to shift things up a bit over the next couple of days. So you can create flow and light within the texture of your week:
Yes, sometimes there will be screentime and sometimes there will be dry cereal for dinner moments to give yourself a moment to sit in the bathroom and listen to a 5 minute meditation. That's ok. You are showing your kids that balance comes from within. That you turn to within and your spiritual source when the going gets tough.
In order to serve you to the best that I can, and support you with all my heart, I am going to be off Facebook for Saturday and part of Sunday.
I am putting more consistent, foundational tools in place next week so you will feel the stability of that.
Just know that the steps are being put in place as we navigate this together.
In the meantime, breathe deep, take a pause from this head traffic and give yourself permission to be within this Weekend.
Leave your worries in a worry jar, whisper them to the Universe and let things unfold on their own until you open that jar up again on Monday.
(You’ll be surprised what the universe can deliver when we aren’t looking.)
Are your kids suddenly home?
Today’s Monday and, since many people are currently under quarantine and house bound with their kids at home due to the Coronavirus pandemic, there’s a lot of posts regarding school schedules, new routines and how to juggle work and education over the coming weeks.
But here's the thing that is drawing my attention...
Please remember your kids are nervous.
They are energetically picking up on the fear, stress and uncertainty and, even the fact that they are home and not in school when they usually are, is creating nervous tension within them.
If you are finding yourself stressed about getting schoolwork done, and feel like you have to put the teacher hat on right now. Please stop. Pause, hug your darlings and tell them it’s all going to be ok.
Put some music on, have a dance party, go for a walk. Talk. Laugh.
When I started homeschooling 12 years ago, I went into School at Home mode.
I had my chalkboard, I had my school supplies. I was ready. I made study plans every night and with held treats if they didn’t get done.
When my daughter had tears pouring on her pages, and scribbled the words "I hate my life" on the sheets in front of her… I decided there had to be another way.
Oh, her older sister LOVED the system. She was ready, pencil in hand. But my younger girl, she wanted emotional balance first.
So, she learnt through experience, through exploration. She created and we looked into the lesson after. She asked questions and together we found answers.
During this time of extraordinary circumstances, your kids are going to need emotional balance first.
While trying to do school at home may feel like balance, you, as the parent, have to provide the space for comfort, ease, safety and even fun, light and laughter during this time. That's true balance for children.
Please focus on this first.
Please release the To-do list and create balance first.
Please let go of the action focus and build connection first.
You know, when our kids are grown up they will look back and remember this time as a moment in history.
Wouldn't it be nice if they looked back with pride, that, in their home, they felt safe and made happy memories with their parents. Wouldn't it be a wonderful lesson for them that, even in the face of fear, worry and stress, their family stayed brave and sang through it all.
Circumstance doesn't create happiness. Focus and intention does.
And sometimes, we just have to be brave and act gallantly.
My kids are asking me to figure out some ways to create this as a special time. To cancel work and sit with treats to binge watch series, so that whenever that series comes up in history they will remember the time we shared.
To bake things that will spark memories of safety, security and home. (Baking is a great math lesson by the way… and science… and home economics… and life lesson.)
This is a time for the smells of home. For your child’s heart to swell because they know they are safe with their parents and family.
Look for the lessons within life, rather than imposing them into life. Connect with your kids, and create emotional balance first, above all else.
I'm putting a number of resources for parents in your position in place at the moment. Make sure you come over to the Spiritually Aware Parenting Facebook Group where I'll be sharing regularly. Also feel free to email me if you need to chat. Love and light.
Also, if you want to have some light, fun and flowing tools to help your children create inner connection, balance and awareness..
You can check out my course Spiritual Kids, so you can have some spiritually inspired, crafts, exercises and experience prompts for your time at home. <3
My To-do list, that sits on my desk and gets written each weekend, has been pretty much disregarded over the last few days.
I've felt called to something, but finding the words to share have been a little static-y.
So far... my calling has shown up as
- Doing lives with calming meditations.
- As well as offered tools to release fear.
- I'm also encouraging my community to see sick people as whole, to support their healing. (Where attention goes, energy flows, so if you see someone cough, please see their healing,
not their sickness!)
At the same time, I'm not going to be yet another "how to deal with the Corona Virus" post on your newsfeed.
Rather, I want to ask you if you have felt the shift to balance yet?
While many people are feeling confined to home and restlessly (and worriedly) looking at what the coming weeks and months look like, I want to ask you to go heart center consider something;
What if this is the time for your inner most desires?
What if it's time for that project you've always wanted to do? What if it's time to read that stack of books or explore some new course of action?
What if its time to just play with your kids, because "quality time" is something you always think you don't have time for?
I know how stressed many of you are right now.
You have work to think about and bills that might mount up. You are worried for your loved ones and community. There can be so much to worry about.
But stress and fear is showing to create more of the problem as it weakens immunity and puts you physically on red alert.
I believe going within, and seeing this all from the Inside Out, may just create an opportunity for change.
Look, it will never be the perfect time to create change.
It can't be.
When you have a pattern of work and stress and busyness in place, then momentum builds from there and your desires will always be second place. (or third or forth).
You know me. I'm an optimist. In fact, positive outcomes have become second nature. (I wasn't born with that gift. Honest. It took some serious re-programming).
So, what if, it's just time. It doesn't have to be "perfect".
Time to explore your passions, your interests, your curiosities.
What if, while there's rumbling panic outside, you create a sanctuary within, even for just an hour a day? Or 30 minutes. Wouldn't that make your heart feel lighter? Would it bring some joy or relief? Wouldn't it feel more open?
I want you to consider something:
What have you been talking about lately that you want to see changed in your life and how can you create that change RIGHT NOW? In your home, your routine and your habits?
I can't think of a better time to create the change you want to see in your world.
While so many of the world are quarantined or unable to go out to events and such, there's a choice.
Hang around, watching Netflix, complaining on Facebook and focused on the fear.
Activate the inner desires you've been feeling pulled to and let this period of time enhance your life.
Where attention goes, energy flows.
Do you want your energy flowing to worry, stress or fear?
Or do you want to look back at this time in a few years and be proud of yourself, for claiming the moment and becoming the Change you want to See in YOURSELF!
I can't wait to see how you transform this world over the next few weeks.
PS- and don't forget, if Self Development, Spirituality and Inner work are on your curiosity list or something you haven't felt you had "time" for...
on Monday I'll be leading a study group of the STEP INTO YOUR LIGHT Course material. There's still space and still time to join us.
I hope to see you there.
PS- Neat fact...
Did you know that in 1665, Isaac Newton had to work from home due to the Plague?
That was when he developed calculus and gravity...
So while everyone talks about quarantines, elderberry and wide-eyed fears, I wanted to offer my simple perspectives on feeling grounded, present and whole while the buzz of scary things is whirling around you.
I recently put this graphic together after having a conversation with a good friend of mine regarding the current panic of the coronavirus.
The reason is simple.
No matter what, everything in this world can be either focused in love or in fear and when the world is building momentum on fear, then you have to do what it takes to find your way back to LOVE.
What’s ironic is that FEAR itself is scientifically proven to weaken a human's immunity anyway, it creates stress which jumps your mind and heart into fight or flight mode.
You can start fighting mere ideas of fear rather than using this emotional tool for when you intuitively know there’s something to defend against.
In order to find your way back to your heart center, to find the comfort of love focus and the knowingness of aware living, there’s a few steps that will help you climb down from the panic fence and reclaim your heart and mind to feel calm.
Here's my 5 steps to calm a fearful mind. Also known as THE FEAR TOOLBOX
You can't put a happy face sticker on feeling scared.
Rather, it takes acknowledging it and moving through it.
I want to encourage you now to turn off anything that is trying to make you scared. Rather, go within your heart and ask it what it knows.
This is merely one element I work through in my course STEP INTO YOUR LIGHT.
It's important to listen to your heart, your own inner guidance. But so often it's buried under layers of shoulds, past stories or implied guilt.
If you are struggling with finding your intuitive guidance, feeling centered and remembering how to spark your own inner voice and connection to love, than I want to take this opportunity to invite you to join me for my upcoming study group of this course material.
Throughout this course I offer you simple tools and processes, where you can release what scares you and chart a course for your life based on connection and love.
In our private Facebook group, starting March 16th, 2020, I'll be offering you space, support and accountability, so you feel safe and prepared as you dive in heart center.
There is no better time to build up a strong foundation of love, light and inner, spiritual connection than when fear is pounding at your mind.
I truly hope you will consider joining me on this empowering, magical experience.
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